1. What did you do in 2014 that you’d never done before?
I finally went to New York.
I went to Oregon Country Fair.
I had ALLTHEBRUNCHES.
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I made two - to do comedy and to do brunch, weekly. The comedy thing proved challenging once I started getting busier, but weekly brunch was a treasure. The BEST thing I have ever done.
I'm making the BEST EVER resolution for 2015 - I'm gonna finally start my GIVE BACK thing and give 50% of my tips (roughly five grand) to the homeless. In hundred-dollar bills. Individually. One story at a time.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
My friend and Chiropractor, Korin, gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
5. What countries did you visit?
This one. I'm in the process of getting my passport and passports for the kids, though. Because I have PLANS!
6. What would you like to have in 2015 that you lacked in 2014?
Every year, I say the same thing - "More Patience. Capital P." But this our good friend, Patience with an ACTUAL Capital P, moved in and I can't think of a god damn thing I lacked this year. My buckets runneth over.
7. What dates from 2014 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
Patrick and I found the house and moved in together in May. I won't soon forget that. We celebrated our first anniversay on the 4th of July. Other than that it was my kids birthdays, an EPIC Halloween party, a lovely Thanksgiving. Oh, and Daniel hosted one hell of a birthday party when he turned 52.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I want to say brunch because it was certainly the BEST thing I did all year, but it didn't hurt, you know? It didn't take pain or practice or sacrifice. I just DID it and loved every minute of it.
So I'll say, instead, that my relationship with Patrick has been a huge achievement. Successful poly relationships aren't easy and I feel like we've both really put the work in this year. We've learned A LOT and I think we've both grown through all of it, both individually and as a unit. It still amazes me that it can be this easy to be this happy.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Exercise! I totally quit running this year and have really only been working out once a week, at best. Total FAIL.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Aside from weight gain, I've been relatively physically healthy. My mental health took a nose dive in the Fall, and that was ugly, but instead of adding more drugs, I reduced my Wellbutrin (which might have been causing some of my anxiety), bought a happy light and have been feeling much more like myself again. It was surprising and a little sad to find out that I still have a dark side when I'm not taking good care of myself.
11. What was the best thing you bought?
An iPhone for my 11 year old. Yep. I'm that mom. But I get to text my boy all the time and that's priceless.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
My brother, Tom's. He's always been the good boy who did all the right things in the right order. But this year he fell in love with a goddess named Meg and married her before they'd even known each other for two months. It was the bravest, most honest thing he's ever done. He took a risk. And I've never seen him this happy.
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
My own. I'm really the only person who has the power to get to me.
14. Where did most of your money go?
Food! Between living with roughly a dozen humans and hosting brunch every Sunday, we're keeping Fred Meyer in business.
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
The house. And for the first time ever, the anticipation wasn't NEARLY as good as the real thing. This HOUSE! YOU GUYZ!!
16. What song will always remind you of 2014?
All of Me by John Legend.
- a) happier or sadder? Happier. So much happier.
- b) thinner or fatter? Fifteen pounds heavier! At the high-end of my post-surgery weight range.
- c) richer or poorer? Richer. I can not only pay my bills, but I have actual SAVINGS.
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Drinking. (Sorry, not sorry.)
20. How did you spend Christmas?
With my kids, my boyrfriend, and a few of our closest peeps. We played Cards Against Humanity. It was perfection. This life!
21. Did you fall in love in 2014?
So many times. None of them romantic. But the people I get to see every week are lovable in every imaginable way.
22. What was your favorite TV program?
Same response as the last three years: what is this "TV" of which you speak?!?
23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
Same responses as the last three years: No. I can't think of ANYONE I hate.
24. What was the best book you read?
The Ethical Slut. Again. Only because I can't think of anything else I read. Books don't really happen much when you're busy building a community.
25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
26. What did you want and get?
27. What did you want and not get?
The skinny gene.
28. What was your favorite film of this year?
Remind me again what movies are?
29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 38. Patrick took me to the Crystal Ballroom to see one Miss Sharon Jones. SHARON FUCKING JONES!
30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Is there anything?
31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2014?
32. What kept you sane?
Sam and Terry. Ramona. (My magical therapist). And my Big Tent of close peeps.
33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
34. What political issue stirred you the most?
The police. Fuck em.
35. Who did you miss?
Oddly my sibling, Andy. Long story. No short answer. They don't really want to talk with me, but I still miss them. I wish they could be part of this totally accepting world I live in and know how much I accept everything about them - even the annoying shit.
36. Who was the best new person you met?
One Patience Virtue. My sister from another mister. I've met A LOT of people this year, but she's a human who I GET. And she gets me. And it's magic.
37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2014.
38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
The song about my Brunch Family...
"How many times do I have to tell you
Even when you're crying you're beautiful too
The world is beating you down, I'm around through every mood
You're my downfall, you're my muse
My worst distraction, my rhythm and blues
I can't stop singing, it's ringing, in my head for you.
My head's under water
But I'm breathing fine
You're crazy and I'm out of my mind
'Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me
I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all of you"