Started by Dooce and now making its way around the Internet, here's the most recent Facebook inspired quiz thingie, this one about our spouses. Leave yours in the comments or link back to your own blog!
What are your middle names?
Mine is Marie. Dave's is Alexander, which was also his father's middle name (and our son's first name).
How long have you been together?
We met in December of 1995, so HOLY CRAP, a really long time, over 13 years.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We talked on the phone for about a month before we first met in person. Dave was in the middle of his last semester of finals at Cal and he didn't want meeting me to screw up his grades. I'm pretty sure it did anyway, though, because we talked on the phone almost five hours a day that whole month.
Who asked whom out?
I answered his personal ad, but the first date was mutual.
How old are each of you?
I'm 32 and Dave is 42.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Probably mine, just because I have more of them, but Dave's brother is his best friend. If they weren't BROTHERS, I would've accused them of having an affair a decade ago. They talk on the phone almost every day. My siblings and I have mostly as-needed relationships. They call me during tax season, I call them when my computer dies and in the process, we all remember how much we dig each other.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
I would definitely say family drama. (cough) Moving on...
Did you go to the same school?
We were at UC Davis together, but I was an undergrad and he was in law school.
Are you from the same home town?
No, but we're both from the Bay Area. I was born in Campbell and he was born in Mountain View. Both of our kids were born at the same hospital as their father.
Who is smarter?
That depends. Dave definitely has the higher IQ, but he's not... quick, like I am. No place in our lives does this manifest itself more frequently than while watching television. The average episode of Heroes requires that I press pause approximately 47 times so I can explain to Gramps exactly what's going on. And he still hasn't figured out how to program the voice mail on his cellphone. But give him a legal problem? And he'll tear that shit up.
Who is the most sensitive?
Dave. I think I manage to hurt his feelings more often and certainly more deeply than he ever hurts mine. I'm quick to anger, but even quicker to cool, whereas he holds everything a bit closer to the chest.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
The best restaurant in Vancouver, WA: Roots. Best happy hour in the history of restaurants.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Costa Rica. It was the last trip we took together, approximately 29 years ago, and I have vivid memories of being bored and wishing we had children to play with in the pool.
Who has the craziest exes?
Dave. None of mine actually live in the United States, though, so that probably helps.
Who has the worst temper?
Wow. Both of us. I get pissed more often, but Dave gets pissiER.
Who does the cooking?
Me, with the exception of breakfast, which is where Dave really shines. Someday I'll have to post his recipe for hot dogs and eggs.
Who is the neat-freak?
Neither of us, but I am the one always getting annoyed about socks on the floor and coffee cups in the bathroom. Dave is more likely to notice that the baseboards need to be touched-up or that the kitchen cabinets need a good scrubbing. (Which is easy to notice, when you're not the one doing the scrubbing).
Who is more stubborn?
Dave with a capital D. The man is PHYSICALLY INCAPABLE of letting go of an argument until you agree with him. "Agreeing to disagree" doesn't work. Oh no. He'll just keep sending you e-mails with additional logic points until you give in. This is why he doesn't have his own website and I won't give you his e-mail address to discuss the items he posts in the sidebar. I WOULD NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN, he'd be so entrenched in debate.
Who hogs the bed?
We split it right down the middle.
Who wakes up earlier?
The alarm goes off at 6AM and we both roll out of bed as soon as we can after that.
Where was your first date?
He picked me up at work in a borrowed busted-ass Kia that didn't go into fourth gear. I worked weekends at a naughty card store in downtown Los Gatos. (Yes, that one.) We had coffee, then we went to Fresh Choice for dinner (both of us were pretending to be on diets), then we saw a movie (a James Bond), shared our first kiss in the lobby while waiting in line to get in and ended up barely watching the movie ifyouknowwhatimean, then he spent the night. My parents were out of town and hell, I already knew I was going to marry him.
Who is more jealous?
Neither of us has ever had a reason to be.
How long did it take to get serious?
I knew an hour into the first date that he was The One.
Who eats more?
Ha.
Who does the laundry?
I do. Dave CAN do laundry, but his three socks, one shirt and a pair of pants laundry loads bug the crap out of me.
Who’s better with the computer?
Ha.
Who drives when you are together?
Always Dave. He isn't a big fan of my driving and I'm not a big fan of hearing about it. I also absolutely NEVER have more than one drink and do any kind of driving, so if we go out on a date and he wants to liquor me up so he can take advantage of me, he's stuck as designated driver.
Great post! What is the deal with men and the tiny loads of laundry?? My husband does the same thing. He'll wash one day's outfit at a time.
Posted by: Jenny | February 20, 2009 at 06:51 AM
To answer what the deal with men and tiny loads of laundry:
Pants can be rotates, so no more then two pair need to be wash each week. Socks can be "air" out and be reuse. I can use two pairs all week. Only shirt that need washing is tshirt if wear as undergarment.
I can't answer meme because I never have relationship lasting more then two months. See above ;P
Posted by: Minh | February 20, 2009 at 11:04 AM
Fun meme! Mine's up.
Posted by: Laylabean | February 22, 2009 at 01:00 AM
I'm so late to this, but I love it! I'll do it myself this weekend.
Posted by: mothergoosemouse | April 08, 2009 at 09:33 PM