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August 19, 2007

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megan

Okay so you sort of hit my hot spot with this one!

I don't want kids, I never had and I can pretty much promise you I never will. I don't think it makes my life any less full just different. Don't get me wrong I love children and love spending time with them. Being Auntie Megan is what I am comfortable with and I'm very good at it. Being a parent is not for me, I am okay with this and I wish the rest of the world was too.

kheatherg

Ya, i can see where your comming from but I can also see where Megan above is comming from. I know people on both sides of the fence, i've heard both sides of the "To have-or not to have" children conversation.

It's a touchy subject on both sides.......

Amanda

I think it's important for me to add that I am only talking about myself here. As a person who always wanted kids, I have a hard time (impossible actually) imagining NOT wanting them. That doesn't mean I think everybody should have kids!

It's just that my life felt completely empty without them. When Dave and I would take vacations just the two of us, we'd often talk about how much more fun we'd be having if we had kids.

I can only imagine what a giant pain in the ass it must be for the childless to have to constantly defend their position against breeders like me. Especially for Megan, who comes from a big family, it must get REALLY old answering the "when are you giving me grandkids?" question. I'm so sorry!

Kizz

Megan & kheatherg,

Thank you both for saying what I was feeling and for phrasing it far more diplomatically than I was able to.

kheatherg

oooo, I have 4 kids but man, what i wouldnt give to have a vacation with none. Just.for.the.weekend. LOL

megan

You have no idea how much of a pain in the ass it is. My parents have plenty of grandkids and really could care less if I added to the family. Alex's mom on the other hand, I've ripped out her heart and stomped on it.

I don't really think of myself as childless since I spend so much time with my nieces, nephews and friend's children. We probably attend as many kids parties as most parents and I would be sad if we were excluded from such events just cause we don't have kids.

I do think this is a very interesting topic through since there are so many different perspectives from both sides of the fence.

Alex and Genoa would totally ditch you and Dave after five minutes at our house, we've got the best toys!

David

"When Dave and I would take vacations just the two of us, we'd often talk about how much more fun we'd be having if we had kids."

Now, of course, we are unable to even take a vacation and even if we could, would be miserable, along with everyone else, with our new wireless enhanced decibel level daughter who is mostly stuck on horror B-movie terror scream mode.

Frema

I think once you become a parent, there is no more important job than raising happy, well-adjusted children. However, for those who don't have kids, their lives can be full of meaning as well.

Example: my friend is an actor who recently landed his first major TV gig. He's wanted this for a long time, and it's good that he's finally finding success. However, he has a six-year-old son he hasn't seen since he was two.

If my friend were childless, his acting gig would be simply amazing. But as it stands, all I can think about is, "Dude, being the best actor in the world won't change that you're a crappy dad." That last thing will overshadow anything else he'll ever do.

Andrew

> I can't imagine why anyone would want to go through life without having children.

Perhaps because you lack imagination? Also because you're insensitive? Just thinking out loud here.

> My children seem to give everything else in my life meaning.

Personally, I believe that children are the future. We should teach them well and let them lead the way.

> Without them, my life would just be about me and I guess that seems shallow now that I have kids

Reading your blog, it is very difficult for me to conceptualize your life being any more shallow.

> I can't of anything I'd rather be doing right now than taking care of my family (and blogging about it)

Thank goodness, because we're all reaping the benefits.

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